Please help me i am very up set-Give me something to read from quran.

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As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

 

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Dear Brother Burhan A&A

My question is ( I am married for the pervious 10 year having 2 kids, it is love and arrange marraige,my husband was very supportive and loving but my in-laws never never in my favour, though i supported the family in every mean of life but in return i ws always betrayed and insulted by them in different ways. Now my husband is also behaving inthe same way , now he has a ego problem, if you make mistake he will never forgive you but in case he makes some mistake he wants to be forgiven, but tell me my brother till what time i will bear this now he has told me not to talk or even meet my family members, my family wants to sit and talk to him but he does not want to talk to any one of them . Please help me i am very up set-Give me something to read from quran. so that it can help my problem out.

 

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Problems in marriage dua

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Your Question: ….he has a ego problem, if you make mistake he will never forgive you but in case he makes some mistake he wants to be forgiven

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chatper 24 Surah Noor verse 22:

22      ……. let them (the believers) forgive and overlook: do you (as a believer) not wish that Allah should forgive you? For Allah is Oft-Forgiving Most Merciful.

 

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 4923  Narrated by Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-'As

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘The Compassionate One has Mercy on those who are merciful. If you show mercy to those who are on the earth, He Who is in the Heaven will show mercy to you!’

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 9.474         Narrated by Usama bin Zaid

The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: ‘….Allah bestows His Mercy only on those of His slaves who are merciful (to others)."

 

It would indeed be impiety, unrighteousness, injustice, and absolutely unbecoming of the character of a believer who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day to except to be shown mercy when he himself is reluctant to show mercy to others, especially towards his closest loved ones.

 

Your Statement: …..now he has told me not to talk or even meet my family members

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 13 Surah Ar-Raad  verse 25:

As for those who break their covenant with Allah after confirming it, who cut asunder relationships which Allah has bidden to be joined, and spread chaos on the earth,  their’s shall be the curse, and they shall have a wretched abode in the Hereafter.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Bakarah verse 27:

And He leads astray only those who disobey Allah,  who break Allah’s covenant after ratifying it, who cut asunder relationships what Allah has ordered to be joined, and who produce chaos on the Earth.   These are indeed the people who are the losers.

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.17 Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet (saws) said, "The word 'Ar-Rahm (womb) derives its name from Ar-Rahman (i.e., one of the names of Allah) and Allah said: 'I will keep good relation with the one who will keep good relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin), and sever the relation with him who will sever the relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin).

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.15 Narrated by Anas bin Malik

Allah 's Messenger (saws) said, "Whoever loves that he be granted more wealth and that his lease of life be prolonged, then he should keep good relations with his kith and kin."

 

It is absolutely impermissible, forbidden, and an abomination of a sin in the Sight of Allah for one to break or sever ties or relationships of blood which the Lord Himself has created for them! 

 

The husband, or anyone else in creation for that matter, has absolutely no right to command another to break relations with their kith and kin; leave alone one’s own parents!

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3696        Narrated by An-Nawwas ibn Sam'an

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "A creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the Creator."

 

Even if one’s husband were to command his wife to break relations or disown one’s parents or blood-relatives, the command of the husband would not be obeyed in this matter, for it involves disobedience to the Guidance and Commands of the Lord All-Mighty.

 

Your Question: …….but tell me my brother till what time i will bear this

Beloved Sister in Islam, under the conditions your find yourself in, you have two lawful options:

  1. Bear the trials and injustice your husband lays upon you with patience, expecting your retribution and reward from your Lord Most Merciful….and thus save your marriage.
  2. If you cannot bring yourself to bear the injustice in your marriage, you are well within your rights in Islam to seek a permanent separation from your husband through the institution of divorce, and there would be no blame or sin upon you.

 

Your Question: Please help me i am very up set-Give me something to read from quran. so that it can help my problem out.

Dear and beloved sister, the more you recite and understand the Glorious Quran, the more you will get closer to your Lord….the more you get closer to your Lord, the more content your heart will be at the Truth that this life is nothing but a place of trials and tribulations; for the real life is indeed the life of the Hereafter.  

 

Thus strive as hard as you can to get closer to your Lord through the understanding of His Glorious Book of Guidance, and whenever the Shaytaan tries to inspire you towards despair and anxiety with what transpires in this short and transitory world….keep your trust and faith and belief in the Mercy of your Lord, seek refuge in Allah from the evil whisperings of the Shaytaan, recite the Muawidaat (113th Surah Al-Falaq and the 114th Surah An-Naas) as often as you can, and in all humility, awe, fear, and hope beseech your Lord Most Gracious to make your trial easy for you, bestow upon you the patience, the wisdom and the courage to face the trials, and do and say only that which brings about the Lord’s Pleasure and Good Will. 

 

My dear and beloved sister, rest absolutely assured that your Lord is well aware of the condition of each in His creation; and Allah is our witness sister, there is none with true faith who sincerely and humbly, in absolute awe, fear and hope beseeches and implores their Lord Creator for something, and their Lord Most Merciful does not respond to their supplication! 

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 186:

And if  My servants ask you,  O Prophet, concerning Me,  tell them that I am quite near to them.   I hear and answer the prayer of the suppliant,  when he calls on Me.  So let them respond to My call and believe in Me.  (Convey this to them),  perhaps they may be guided aright!

 

Salman reported that the Prophet (saws), said, "Your Lord, the Blessed and the Exalted One, is Modest and Generous, and He loathes to turn away His servant empty-handed when he raises his hands to Him in supplication."

Narrated by Ahmad and Ibn Hibban.

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.628         Narrated by Ibn Abbas

The Prophet (saws) sent Mu'adh to Yemen and said, "Be afraid from the curse (or supplications) of the oppressed, as there is absolutely no screen between their supplications and Allah!"

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan

 

 

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