I had asked a question mybe a month back or so regarding the beard.

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I had asked a question mybe a month back or so regarding the beard that if the husband wants to grow his beard but the wife refuses so what should be done please note that the husband already has a beard which the wife does not object but he wants to grow more so that it comes in his palm which the wife does not want you have still not replied to me regarding the above question please do so and now secondly i want to know that if from one month or more the husband does not feel like having sex because he does not get an erection or sometimes he is tired with all other outdoor activities and the wife has a sex urge so what should she do ? can she watch blue movies and masturbat or is it haraam in islam?


Please i will be extremely greatly if you answer these questions as soon as possible without any delay


Thanking you


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Wife masturbation and beard

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.


Growing a beard was considered normal and natural for a man at the time of the Messenger of Allah (saws), whether he was a believer or not.   Even the enemies of Islam like Abu Jahl and Abu Lahb had long beards!    And because every man naturally grew a beard, it was not necessary for the Prophet (saws) to give an explicit command exhorting the believers to grow a beard.   


The only specific saying of the Prophet (saws) regarding the keeping of beards arose when he saw that the pagans used to grow both their beards and their mustaches long;  thus he (saws) said to the believers:

Ibn 'Umar related that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said: "Differ from the polytheists: let your beards (grow), and trim your moustache."

Related by al-Bukhari and Muslim.


It was only a couple of centuries ago,  when the western culture and ideology became dominant over the world and muslim lands,  that it became a fashion to be clean shaven.    And as with any dominant culture, people are always ready to adopt its actions, whether they are of virtue, or of vice!    But Islam has its own culture, and growing a beard is part of the Islamic culture.


The question is why should a believer,  who professes to believe in Allah and the Last Day,  and who professes to follow the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws),  want to grow a beard?  

The answer is simple. Today, you might have seen many youngsters copy the fashion of sport-stars, Hollywood-stars or anybody else whom they love. If you notice today, many hot Hollywood and sport stars are sporting a "goatie" beard!    And true to fashion, you see a lot of people around today who keep "goatie" beards!!! As Muslims, our role model should always be the Prophet (saws). We love to copy everything he did ... he had a beard,  and if indeed,  we want to follow the Messenger of Allah (saws),  we should strive to grow a beard.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzab verse 21:

There is indeed the best model for you in the Messenger of Allah, for every such person looks forward to Allah and the Last Day, and remember Allah much.


In another narration, the Prophet of Allah said in narrating a prophecy of times to come:

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 9.651         Narrated by Abu Said Al Khudri

The Prophet (saws) said: “There will emerge from the East some people who will recite the Quran, but it will not exceed their throats, and who will go out of the deen of Islam as an arrow passes through the game. They will never come back to it unless the arrow comes back to the middle of the bow by itself (i.e. impossible!). The companions asked, "What will their signs be?". The Prophet (saws) said: "Their sign will be the habit of shaving off of their beards".


Thus the keeping of beards is an encouraged and preferred Sunnah of the Prophet (saws) and every muslim must strive to keep a beard, if his model is indeed the Prophet of Allah (saws). He will get his due reward from Allah, Insha Allah, if he keeps the beard to follow the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws).


What is important in Islam and in the Sight of Allah, is that one truly believes and does good righteous deeds.   And when that happens, it is expected that the beard will follow soon after!   


The beard is nothing more than a sign that the believer truly wants to follow a Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws).    There are many people who have long beards, but do deeds against the commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws).   And there are many people who are amongst the best believers, but do not have beards!  Allah will not decide the recipient of His Mercy and His Forgiveness from the appearance of the individual or the size of one’s beard; but rather He will decide whether the person believed and did righteous deeds as he was commanded by Allah and His Messenger (saws).  


Because each individual has been blessed by nature to have different levels of facial hair-growth, to the best of our knowledge there is no specific injunction in Shariah Law regarding the exact length of beard a believer is obliged to adorn.  There are reports from some companions of the Noble Prophet (saws) who said that they would hold the beard in the fist of their hands and whatever exceeded that, they would trim that, while other reports say that the beards of some other companions would be long unto their chests.  And Allah Alone Knows best.


What is certain and recorded in the authentic and established narrations regarding the beard is this narration from Hadrat Abdullah ibn Umar (r.a.):

Ibn 'Umar related that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said: "Differ from the polytheists: let your beards (grow), and trim your moustache."

Related by al-Bukhari and Muslim.


Your Question: if the husband wants to grow his beard but the wife refuses so what should be done please note that the husband already has a beard which the wife does not object but he wants to grow more so that it comes in his palm which the wife does not want

If the husband has grown the beard to please or win the approval of his wife, then he may do what pleases his wife; but if the reason the husband has grown the beard is because he strives to obey Allah and follow the Sunnah of Allah’s Messenger (saws), then he should absolutely disregard whether any in creation approves of his act or not and do only what pleases Allah Subhanah.


Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3696        Narrated by An-Nawwas ibn Sam'an

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "A creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the Creator."


Your Question: ……and the wife has a sex urge so what should she do ? can she watch blue movies and masturbat or is it haraam in islam?

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 23 Surah Muminoon verses 1-11:

1        The Believers must (eventually) win through

2        Those who humble themselves in their prayers;

3        Who avoid vain talk;

4        Who are active in deeds of charity;

5        Who scrupulously guard their modesty (private parts), 

6        Except with those joined to them in the marriage bond,  or (the captives) whom their right hands possess;  for (in their case) they are free from blame.

7        But those whose desires exceed those limits, are transgressors!

8        Those who faithfully observe their trust and their covenants;

9        And who (strictly) guard their prayers

10      Those will be the heirs

11      Who will inherit Paradise: they will dwell therein (forever).


The scholars of all schools of thought are unanimous in their opinion that the evil act of ‘masturbation’ would, without an iota of a doubt, fall under the category of ‘those whose desires exceed the limits’.


Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter24 Surah Noor verse 30:

O Prophet,  enjoin the believing men to restrain their gaze,  and guard their private parts.   This is a more righteous way for them.   Allah has knowledge of whatever they do. 


Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:

Do not even go near ‘zina’ (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very evil way!


Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 4886  Narrated by Anas ibn Malik

That he heard the Messenger of Allah (saws) say: ‘The eye commits ‘zina’, and the palm of the hand, the foot, the body, the tongue and private part of the body confirm it or deny it.’


Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.260         Narrated by Ibn Abbas

I have not seen a thing resembling 'lamam' (minor sins) than what Abu Huraira narrated from the Prophet (saws) who said "Allah has written for the children of Adam their share of adultery which he commits inevitably. The adultery of the eyes is the sight (to gaze at a forbidden thing), the adultery of the tongue is the talk, and the inner self wishes and desires and the private parts testify all this or deny it."


Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 36 Surah Ya-Seen verse 65:

65      That Day shall We set a seal on their mouths.  But their hands will speak to Us and their feet bear witness to all that they did.


Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 41 Surah Ha-Meem verses 19-23:

19      On the Day that the enemies of Allah will be gathered together to the Fire they will be marched in ranks.

20      At length when they reach the (Fire) their hearing, their sight, and their skins will bear witness against them as to (all) their deeds.

21      They will say to their skins: "Why bear ye witness against us?"  They (their skins) will say: "Allah hath given us speech, (He) Who giveth speech to everything: He created you for the first time and unto Him were ye to return.

22      "Ye did not seek to hide yourselves lest your hearing, your sight, and your skins should bear witness against you! But ye did think that Allah knew not many of the things that ye used to do!

23      "But this thought of yours which ye did entertain concerning your Lord hath brought you to destruction, and (now) have ye become of those utterly lost!"


Although in legal terminology ‘zina’ would constitute the actual penetration of the male organ into the female organ, the Messenger of Allah (saws) warned the believers regarding the minor ‘zina’ of the eyes, hands, legs, etc. Not only is the evil act of ‘zina’ prescribed as absolutely forbidden in Islam, every path or every way that leads one to this evil path is also declared as forbidden!  Such is the gravity of this abomination of ‘zina’, that Allah Subhanah commands the believers in the Quran: Do not even go near ‘zina’!!!


Thus if one intentionally sees and watches ‘fahisha’ (indecency), it would constitute ‘zina’ of the eyes; if one derives pleasure from talks of ‘fahisha’, it would constitute ‘zina’ of the ears and mouth, if one touches or goes towards something or someone with the intention of ‘fahisha’, it would constitute ‘zina’ of the hands and the legs!  Although there is no prescribed punishment for the ‘zina’ of the eyes, mouth, ears, hands and feet in the life of this world, if one dies without seeking ‘taubah’ and repentance from their Lord, he will be held severely accountable for these acts of ‘minor’ zina in the Presence of their Majestic Lord in the Hereafter.  The abomination of masturbation is a sin and an evil act, and the believers who sincerely fear Allah and the Last Day must strive to absolutely abstain from this and all evil.  


Your Question (again): ……and the wife has a sex urge so what should she do ? can she watch blue movies and masturbat or is it haraam in islam?

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 33:

33      Say (O Prophet (saws)): ‘The things that my Lord hath indeed (absolutely) forbidden (declared ‘haraam’) are: shameful deeds whether open or secret; sins and trespasses against truth or reason; assigning of partners to Allah for which he hath given no authority; and saying things about Allah of which ye have no knowledge.


Under absolutely no circumstances are the believers, men and women alike, allowed to approach any indecent or shameful deed; and without an iota of a doubt the watching of indecent movies or masturbation is a manifest act of ‘fahisha’ which the Lord All-Mighty has Declared absolutely ‘haraam’ and prohibited for those who sincerely believe in Him and the Last Day. 


The wife may employ every means at her disposal to entice her husband to fulfill her natural physical desire in marriage; and if even after her very best efforts she is not satisfied she should either bear her situation with patience, or even go as far as seek a divorce …… but under absolutely no circumstances should a believer who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day seek their satisfaction from the ‘fahisha’ (unlawful, shameful, and indecent deeds).


Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.


Your brother and well wisher in Islam,





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