My wife when she wants to release her tension of sex she comes on with her clothes on ands rubs her vagina on my side while i am lying down on one side
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my
wife when she wants to release her tension of sex she comes on with her clothes
on ands rubs her vagina on my side while i am lying down on one side, she gets
discharge in this position and nothings comes out from her and she asks me
whether gusal is farz for her now as she did not take off here clothes and neither
did i go inside and nothing came out from her. pls inform.
My
another question is after having sex if i wash my parts clean and wear the same
clothes will they be paak and specially the west and the shirt as it does not
even touch the lower part of the body.
thnx
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Answer:
Clothes sex and ghusl
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Your Question: my
wife when she wants to release her tension of sex she comes on with her clothes
on ands rubs her vagina on my side while i am lying down on one side, she gets
discharge in this position and nothings comes out from her and she asks me
whether gusal is farz for her now as she did not take off here clothes and
neither did i go inside and nothing came out from her. pls inform.
Sahih Muslim Hadith 684 Narrated byAbu Musa
There cropped up a difference of opinion
between a group of Muhajirs (Emigrants) and a group of Ansar (Helpers) (and the
point of dispute was) that the Ansar said: ‘The ‘ghusl’ (full bath) becomes
obligatory only when the semen spurts out or ejaculates.’ But the Muhajirs said: ‘When a man has sexual
intercourse (with the woman), a ‘ghusl’ (full bath) becomes obligatory (no
matter whether or not there is seminal emission or ejaculation).’ AbuMusa said: Well, I shall satisfy you on this
(issue). He (AbuMusa, the narrator)
said: ‘I stood up, (went) to Aisha and sought her permission which was granted.
I said to her: :O Mother of the Faithful, I want to ask you about a matter
about which I feel shy.” She said:
“Don't feel shy of asking me about a thing which you can ask your mother who
gave birth to you, for I too am your mother.”
Upon this I said: “What makes a ‘ghusl’ obligatory for a person?” She replied: “You have come across one who is
well informed! The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: “When the private parts (of
the man and the woman) touch each other. a ‘ghusl’ becomes obligatory.”’
Two acts during the process of sexual intercourse makes
‘ghuls’ obligatory:
If the private organs of the man and the woman have
neither touched nor entered into each other, nor was there a full sexual
discharge by either the man or the woman, then a ‘ghusl’ or full bath would not
become obligatory before they make themselves available for prayer.
Your Statement: ……she
gets discharge in this position and nothings comes out from her and she asks me
whether gusal is farz for her
The very term ‘discharge’ in this context would mean that
some sexual emission is released from one’s private parts.
Fiqh-us-Sunnah Fiqh
1.10
Wadi is a thick white secretion
discharged (by some people) after urination. It is considered impure. Aishah said, " Wadi comes out after
urination. The person should wash the private parts and perform ablution. It is not necessary to perform ghusl. This is
related by Ibn al-Mundhir. Ibn 'Abbas
related that "mani” (ejaculation or full sexual discharge) requires
ghusl. As for “madhi” (prostatic fluid
or initial sexual discharge) and ‘wadi’ they require a complete
purification." This is related by
al-Athram. Al-Baihaqi has it with the
wording, "Concerning ‘madhi’ and ‘wadi’, he said, 'Wash your sexual organs
and perform the same type of ablution as you perform for prayer."'
There are basically three types
of sexual discharges that are released from one’s private organs:
If only Wadi or Madhi is released, one does not require a ‘ghusl’ or full bath to purify oneself; one must wash their private parts and the part of the clothes or body where the ‘wadi’ or ‘madhi’ has touched, do the wudu, and make themselves available for prayer.
If Mani or a full sexual
discharge is released, then it become obligatory to perform a ‘ghusl’ or full
bath to purify oneself.
Your Question: My
another question is after having sex if i wash my parts clean and wear the same
clothes will they be paak and specially the west and the shirt as it does not
even touch the lower part of the body.
Sahih Muslim Hadith 572 Narrated by Aisha
Abdullah ibn Shihab al-Khawlani reported: ‘I
stayed in the house of Aisha and had a wet dream (and perceived its effect on
my garment), so (in the morning) I dipped both (the clothes) in water. This
(act of mine) was watched by a maid-servant of Aisha and she informed her. She
(Aisha) sent me a message: ‘What prompted you to act like this with your
clothes?’ He (the narrator) said: ‘I told that I saw in a dream what a sleeper
sees.’ She said: ‘Did you find (any mark of the semen) on your clothes?’ I said: ‘No.’ She said: ‘Had you found anything
you should have washed it. In case I found semen on the garment of the
Messenger of Allah (saws) dried up, I scraped it off with my nails.’
Sahih Muslim Hadith 566 Narrated by Aisha
A person stayed in the house of Aisha and in
the morning began to wash his garment. Aisha said: ‘In case you saw it (i.e.
semen), it would have served the purpose (of purifying the garment) if you had
simply washed that spot; and in case you did not see it, it would have been
enough to sprinkle water around it, for when I saw (dried) semen on the garment
of the Messenger of Allah (saws), I simply scraped it off and he (saws) offered
prayer, while putting that garment on.’
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 1.229 Narrated by Aisha
I used to wash the traces of Janaba (semen)
from the clothes of the Prophet (saws) and he (saws) used to go for prayers
while traces of water were still on it (water spots were still visible on the
garment).
Firstly, simply ‘washing one’s private parts clean’ after
sexual intercourse would not suffice for purification. If one has had a sexual intercourse with
one’s wife, it is absolutely obligatory that one purify themselves with a
‘ghusl’ or full bath before they make themselves available for prayer.
Secondly, if one is absolutely certain that the sexual
emission has not touched the upper garments (vest, shirt, etc.), then those
garments will be considered absolutely pure and there is no harm if one wishes
to pray in them.
Thirdly, if one finds a wet semen mark or spot on one’s
garment, it would suffice that one wash that part of the garment thoroughly
before wearing them during their prayers.
Fourthly, if one finds that the semen has completely dried
off on the garment one wore during or immediately after their sexual
intercourse, it would suffice to simply scrape off the semen.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
