Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.  (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

 

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

salam

i am very shy to say, but i want to know one answer for my question..i.e.

i am married and my wife have one freind..one day as i wa having sex with my wife at night the freind of her saw us..now the matter is the freind of her wanted to have sex with me. i said no, but she insisted my wife, and now my wife is also ready to help her, but i don`t want to do this, so i want a help from u that what should i do according to muslim religion.

may allah bless u.

khuda hafiz.

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Answer:

 

Sex with wife’s friend

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person,  no grave, no prophet,  no imam,  no dai,  nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 23 Surah Muminoon verses 1-6:

1        The Believers must win through

2        Those who humble themselves in their prayers;

3        Who avoid vain talk;

4        Who are active in deeds of charity;

5        Who abstain from sex

6        Except with those joined to them in the marriage bond or (the captives) whom their right hands possess; for (in their case) they are free from blame

 

Allah Subhanah has permitted the believers, who sincerely fear Allah and the Last Day, to fulfill their physical desire only through the sacred institution of marriage.  If one, whether man or woman, tries to fulfill this desire out of marriage, it will constitute a grave and heinous sin in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.  Not only has Allah Subhanah declared ‘zina’ haraam for the believers, but so hated and so despised is this sin in the Sight of Allah Subhanah, that He has commanded the believers not to even go ‘near’ it!!

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:

Do not even go near ‘zina’ (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very evil way!

 

Your Question: i said no, but she insisted my wife, and now my wife is also ready to help her, but i don`t want to do this, so i want a help from u that what should i do according to muslim religion.

 

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 2.504         Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet (saws) said, "Seven people will be shaded by Allah under His shade on the day when there will be no shade except His. They are:

(1)   a just ruler;

(2)   a young man who has been brought up in the worship of Allah,

(3)   a man whose heart is attached to the mosque (who offers the five compulsory congregational prayers in the mosque);

(4)   two persons who love each other only for Allah's sake and they meet and part in Allah's Cause only;

(5) a man who refuses the call of a charming woman of noble birth for an illegal sexual intercourse with her and says: ‘I am afraid of Allah’;

(6)   a person who practices charity so secretly that his left hand does not know what his right hand has given (i.e. nobody knows to whom and how much he has given in charity).

(7)   a person who remembers Allah in seclusion and his eyes get flooded with tears."

 

Allah o Akbar!  Allah o Akbar!  Allah o Akbar!  My dear and beloved brother in Islam, may Allah Subhanah reward and honor you to be in the Shade of His Magnificent Throne for your noble refusal to the invitation of illegal sexual intercourse with your wife’s friend. 

 

Beloved brother tell your wife and her friend to fear the Wrath and Anger of Allah, for His Wrath is indeed on those who transgress His Declared Boundaries!  It is absolutely impermissible, unacceptable, forbidden, and ‘haraam’ for a man and a woman to have sexual relationship with anyone other than the one they have married. 

 

As your brothers and well-wishers in faith, we implore you to stay away from the evil your wife’s friend (or rather enemy) invites you to, and warn your wife to stay away from her evil.  Tell them both to immediately and sincerely seek the forgiveness of their Lord Most Gracious for their evil invitation; it is expected they will find Him Forgiving and Merciful. 

 

May Allah Subhanah grant you the patience, the wisdom, and the courage to remain steadfast within the Declared Boundaries of the Majestic Lord, and stay away from the evil and heinous invitation of the woman. 

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

Burhan