What are the duties of wife towards her in-laws?? Is it Farz or is it Nafl to take care of her husband`s parents??

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What are the duties of wife towards her in-laws?? Is it Farz or is it Nafl to take care of her husband`s parents??


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Wife duty towards in laws

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person,  no grave, no prophet,  no imam,  no dai,  nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 34:

34      Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more than the other, and because they support them from their means.  Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard (their modesty and chastity, the honor and property of their husband, etc.)

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 286         Narrated by Umm Salamah

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘If a woman dies while her husband was pleased with her, she will enter Paradise.’

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3272        Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

When Allah's Messenger (saws) was asked which woman was best he replied, "The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves."

 

Your Question-1: What are the duties of wife towards her in-laws??

In light of the guidance of the Quran and the Sunnah, the wife has absolutely no duty and responsibility laid upon her by Islam towards her husband’s family or ‘in-laws’, including the husband’s parents, brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, etc.  The responsibility and duty that Islam has laid upon the believing wife is only towards making sure that her husband is pleased and satisfied with her in every aspect of her life! 

 

Thus, in essence, if a believing woman worships Allah Subhanah as He Alone deserves to be worshipped, preserves her chastity, and strives to the best of her ability to please her husband, the Messenger of Allah (saws) declared that she will be given the honor to enter the Eternal Gardens of Paradise by the gates of her choice! 

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3254        Narrated by Anas ibn Malik

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "When a woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the gates of Paradise she wishes."

 

Having said that she has absolutely no responsibility towards her husband’s family, does not in any way mean or imply that she is allowed to be rude, or disrespectful, or dishonor them in any way.  She must at all times strive to develop cordial relations with her in-laws. 

 

But if the believing woman does, of her own free will, serves the parents or family of her husband, she would be doing a deed of ‘ehsaan’, a deed which would be over and above her prescribed duties and responsibilities; and Allah Subhanah has time and again declared in the Glorious Quran that He absolutely loves those believers who do ‘ehsaan’ or deeds which are over and above their role of duty and responsibility.

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale-Imraan verse 134 (part):

134    …. for Allah loves the ‘muhsineen’ (those who do deeds over and above their call of duty).

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale-Imraan verse 148:

148    And Allah gave them a reward in this world and the excellent reward of the Hereafter.  For Allah loves the ‘muhsineen’ (those who do deeds over and above their call of duty).

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 195 (part):

195    … and do ‘ehsaan’; for Allah loves the ‘muhsineen’ (those who do deeds over and above their call of duty).

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 93 (part):

93      …..  For Allah loves the ‘muhsineen’ (those who do deeds over and above their call of duty).

 

Your Question-2: Is it Farz or is it Nafl to take care of her husband`s parents??

The wife in Islam is absolutely under no obligation to take care or serve her husband’s parents or family; the duty and ultimate responsibility that the parents are served and well cared for is entirely upon the direct off-spring of the parents.  

 

But if the wife, of her own will and choice, wishes to go over and above her prescribed duties and in her benevolence serves the parents and/or family members of her husband, she would be doing the extremely meritorious deed of ‘ehsaan’; and Allah Subhanah absolutely loves those who do ‘ehsaan’ or deeds over and above their prescribed duties.

 

If a husband is blessed with a wife who does ‘ehsaan’ and serves his parents, he should be extremely grateful and thankful to her for her superb gesture of benevolence and kindness.

 

Thus the serving of one’s in-laws would definitely be amongst the ‘Nafl’ (extra) or over and above one’s prescribed duties and responsibilities.

 

Your Question-3: What are the duties of Husband towards his in-laws?? & is it Farz or is it Nafl to take care of his wife`s parents?? 

Just as the wife in Islam has absolutely no duties and responsibilities other than developing and keeping good cordial relations with her in-laws, the husband in Islam too has absolutely no duty or responsibility towards his in-laws except to develop and keep good cordial relations with them.

 

If the husband, of his own free will, chooses to serve or take care of his wife’s parents or family, he would be doing an extremely meritorious deed of ‘ehsaan’ in the Sight of Allah Subhanah; and the wife should appreciate this benevolent gesture of her husband and be appreciative and grateful to him.

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

 

Burhan

 

 

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