I`ve made a terrible sin (and may Hallah forgive me) and had sexual intercourse.
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Salamoualikoum
I`ve made a terrible sin (and may Hallah forgive me) and had sexual
intercourse.
I know what I`ve done is wrong and I pray and worship Allah every single day
and ask for forgiveness.
However now, I`m pregnant. I know that abortion is haram but my family , as
much as his family will not accept it(family honour).
His parents will never accept us to get married because our different cultures
(he is from
So if I have an abortion, I would have sin twice, Zina and abortion. I suppose
I should keep the baby.
But it is very frightening bevause I dont want my baby to be wothout a father.
Please advise on the situation.
thank you.
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Answer:
Zina pregnant
In the
name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness.
Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray,
none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no
person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His
slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your Statements: I`ve made a
terrible sin (and may Hallah forgive me) and had sexual intercourse.
I know what I`ve done is wrong and I pray and worship Allah every single day
and ask for forgiveness.
Whatever deeds one might have done, if
one turns to Allah Subhanah in sincere Taubah and seeks forgiveness, Allah Subhanah has promised in the Holy Quran
that He will forgive all the sins of such a believer, even if one has committed the gravest sin of
all: ‘Shirk’!
The
conditions or ways to seek sincere Taubah or Repentance from the Merciful Lord
are:
One is
aware that he has sinned, and feels
sorry and ashamed at his sin.
Makes a
solemn covenant and promise with Allah that he will not repeat his sin again.
Turns to
Allah and seeks forgiveness, before he
has met with his appointment of death.
Is a
believer and does righteous good deeds thereafter.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54: (O
Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged their own souls….Do not despair
of Allah’s Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before
the scourge overtakes you; for then you
may get no help from anywhere.”
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse
135-136: Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong
their own soul by the commission of a sin,
remember Allah instantly, and ask
for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who,
but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly
persist in the wrongs they did. These
will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah,
and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do
good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54: When
those come to you who believe in Our Signs,
say: "Peace be on you! Your
Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in
ignorance, and thereafter repented and
amended (his conduct), Lo! He is
Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Your Statements: However now, I`m
pregnant. I know that abortion is haram but my family , as much as his family
will not accept it(family honour).
So if I have an abortion, I would have sin twice, Zina and abortion. I suppose
I should keep the baby.
My dear and beloved sister in Islam, as much as ‘zina’ is listed amongst the
gravest sins in Islam, abortion or the murder of an absolutely innocent soul is
an even bigger sin and crime in the Sight of Allah Subhanah! It is bad enough that one in one’s ignorance of
Allah’s Laws was swayed by their emotions and desires and transgressed His
prescribed boundaries by committing ‘zina’; but to intentionally abort and murder
the unborn baby which resulted from the act of zina only to cover the sin of
zina, or to murder an innocent soul to save one’s family’s honor in front of
this world would be a sin and crime beyond compare in the Sight and Scales of
Justice of the Lord Most High.
When one
has committed a mistake or made an error, it is only right that one manifest one’s
repentance by paying the consequences that result from that error!
My dear
and beloved Sister, fear Allah and His Tumultuous Day of Accounting when every
individual will be brought forth in His Majestic Presence to give a full
accounting of their deeds. My dear and
beloved Sister, fear your Lord Creator and His Wrath, and regardless of the
fears you might have today about an unwed girl delivering a baby out of
wedlock, as your brothers and sincere well-wishers in Islam we assure you in
light of the Guidance of the Quran and the Sunnah, that in comparison to the
utter disgrace and punishment the guilty ones will inevitably experience on the
Day of Judgment, the shame and dishonor one fears of this world is miniscule
and insignificant!
Your Statement: I suppose I should
keep the baby.
Without an iota
of a doubt, regardless of what taunts and dishonor one fears the people of this
world might shower on an unwed mother who has given birth to a child out of
wedlock, never ever even think about committing the grave sin of murdering an
innocent unborn soul to cover the sin one did in one’s past!
As your
brothers and sincere well wishers in faith we assure you in light of the
guidance of the Quran and the Sunnah that the trials of this world are
absolutely insignificant to the trial the guilty ones would face in the
Presence of their Lord Most Majestic on an Inevitable and Tumultuous Day!
Your Statement: But it is very
frightening bevause I dont want my baby to be wothout a father.
Delivering and keeping a baby out of wedlock is obviously not a perfect
situation; but let not the fright of facing this imperfect situation in the
transitory life of this world seduce you to commit the grave crime of murder
…..for without an iota of a doubt, the fright, fear, wrath, and punishments one
would have to inevitably face in the Presence of the Lord Most High on the Day
of Judgment will be far-far severe and unbearable.
My dear
and beloved Sister in Islam, regardless of the dishonor, grief, and shame one
fears one might have to face in delivering the baby out of wedlock, manifest
your repentance to your Lord by delivering the innocent baby that Allah
Subhanah has Willed to grow in your womb. Allah is our witness sister, murdering an
innocent soul only to cover one’s past sin is not even an option!
As your
brothers and sincere well-wishers in faith, we implore you in the Name of Allah
to fear Him and His Day of Accounting, and let not the fear of an impending and
simple trial of this short and transitory life ruin your eternal and
everlasting Hereafter.
Whatever
written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance,
and whatever of error is of me alone.
Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in
Islam,