Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Actually me and this guy are involved enough from heart and soul as well physically but due to some social conditions he is unable to marry me openly and we both perhaps cant resist to have sex with each other,even though we have tried alot!.We gave each other lot of time to think still ended up in the solution to have it if we cant be together somehow for the rest of our lives.Would you please can tell me from islamic point of view what can we do about it and what should i tell him that can easily convince him either to marry me or to leave me,bcoz i dont want to do this svere sin even though he said that we can be forgiven even if we committed zina seventy times.God ALmighty is greatest forgiver! 

 

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Answer:

 

Living in sin of Zina

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person,  no grave, no prophet,  no imam,  no dai,  nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Your realization and shame of the heinous sin committed is proof that you fear Allah Subhanah,  and His Accounting on an Inevitable Day.   You should immediately turn to the Merciful Lord in sincere repentance and seek forgiveness;  it is expected you will find your Lord Merciful and Forgiving.

 

Your Question: Would you please can tell me from islamic point of view what can we do about it and what should i tell him that can easily convince him either to marry me or to leave me,bcoz i dont want to do this svere sin

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:Do not even go near ‘zina’ (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very evil way!

 

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqan verses 68-71:

68      (The true servants of the Merciful are) Those who invoke not with Allah any other god,  nor slay such life as Allah has made sacred except for just cause,  nor commit ‘zina’;   and any that does this (not only) meets punishment

69      (But) the Penalty on the Day of Judgment will be doubled to him and he will dwell therein in ignominy.

70      Unless he repents,  believes,  and works righteous deeds;  for Allah will change the evil of such persons into good,  and Allah is Oft-Forgiving Most Merciful

71      And whoever repents and does good has truly turned to Allah with an (acceptable) conversion

 

If you truly fear Allah and His Accounting,  you must immediately stop all relations with this man;  and give him the ultimatum to either marry you immediately or leave you alone forever!  

 

Your Statement:  even though he said that we can be forgiven even if we committed zina seventy times.

Indeed,  Allah Subhanah forgives the sins of His repenting slaves which are done in ignorance,  even if they are done a million times!    But if one intentionally persists in the wrongs they did,  and plans to commit the sin again and again;  he in fact is making a mockery of the infinite mercy and forgiveness of Allah Subhanah!  

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:Allah likes such good people very much, who,  if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin,  remember Allah instantly,  and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings.  For who,  but Allah,  can forgive sins?   (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did.   These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah,  and with Gardens beneath which canals flow,  and they will reside therein forever!   How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!

 

It is a classic ploy and trick of the accursed enemy of man,  the Shaitaan,  to beguile man into knowingly and persistently committing the evil and heinous sin of ‘zina’,  by whispering such baseless thoughts of justification into our hearts;  that Allah Subhanah will forgive the evil sin of ‘zina’,  even if it is done seventy times!  

 

Allah Subhanah is indeed very Forgiving and Merciful towards His slaves who seek sincere repentance and forgiveness;  but to knowingly persist in the wrong,  and intentionally plan to commit a base evil deed again and again does not behove the character of a true believer,  who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day.    It is one of the conditions of seeking sincere repentance,  that a believing slave of the Merciful makes a strong covenant and promise with his Lord that he will not commit the sin again! 

 

Normally,  the person or partner who justifies such evil sins with such baseless arguments,  is either beguiled by the Shaitaan,  or is simply an opportunist who wants to satisfy his lust,  but is not responsible and man enough to assume the responsibilities which are attached to it by legal marriage!  

 

We implore you as your sincere well-wishers and brothers and sisters in faith,  to immediately stop all relations with such a person,  seek sincere repentance from the Merciful Lord for the evil done in the past,  make a strong covenant and promise with Allah Subhanah that you will never repeat this sin again,  and in open and clear terms tell your partner to either honor you by marrying you,  or leave you alone! 

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy!  Surely,  Allah forgives all sins.   He indeed is the All Forgiving,  All Merciful.   Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you;  for then you may get no help from anywhere.”

 

Allah forbid,  if either of you were to meet with your appointment of death while still in the state of this heinous sin and abomination;  the accounting in the Majestic Court of the All-Mighty Lord will indeed be very very severe!  

 

We implore you as your sincere well-wishers and brothers in faith to eschew from this abomination immediately,  and seek sincere repentance from the Merciful Lord;  it is expected you will find Him Forgiving and Merciful.

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your Brother in Islam,

 

 

Burhan